Gay Marriage: Christians Need More Teaching

“I call heaven and earth to record this day against you, that I have set before you life and death, blessing and cursing: therefore choose life that both thou and thy seed may live (Deuteronomy 3:19).”

“Then shall they also answer him, saying, Lord, when saw we thee an hungered, or athirst, or a stranger, or naked, or sick, or in prison, and did not minister unto thee? Then shall he answer them, saying, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye did it not to one of the least of these, ye did it not to me. And these shall go away into everlasting punishment: but the righteous into life eternal (Matthew 25:44-46).”

GOD has given all of us a free will; a right to choose between life and death.

GOD allows all of us to make choices but we also have to live with the consequences of those choices.

GOD also placed men and women of GOD in the earth to help lead and teach us to make the right choice. The problem is men and women of GOD have a tendency to become contentious with those whom they are supposed to love, lead and teach.

A man who won’t treat you right won’t teach you right.

You cannot lead those whom you do not love.

If you want to lead a person to become righteous, you cannot treat them like they are wretched.

We have all had our bouts in time past with OUR version of sin. Someone loved us, prayed for us and waited for us to come out of sin and they welcomed us into right standing with GOD.

If people REALLY knew what Matthew 7:1 (Judge not lest you be judged) REALLY means, they would know that they have no right to punish or condemn anyone. Our job is simply to love our brothers and sisters in a way that will lead them to righteousness.

Has anyone ever thought about WHY GOD has not killed satan? With all the evil the devil has done and is doing WHY hasn’t GOD killed or taken him out?

It’s because GOD still loves him. Just as with you and me, GOD is yet giving satan a chance to repent.

We have a duty to love those who we believe are going in the wrong direction in life. Like the father of the prodigal son (Luke 15), we have to wait at the side of the road and watch for them to return. Then, we have to both welcome and restore them once they come back.

We will not be able to lead them back to righteousness if we don’t love them while they are wretched.

THE HIGH COST OF BUYING INTO COMMON SENSE

Everyone wants to succeed, achieve notoriety and make a fortune. Yet, few ever reach their goal because of the way they think. If you want to change your money, you must change your mind. If you want to rise above average people you cannot think like average people. Thinking like everyone thinks gets you the same results everyone else has gotten. A person who wants to get ahead of common people cannot use common sense.

Using common sense deprives you of the power to become wealthy. Wealthy people follow their spirit; the inner knower that knows all things. Knowledge and ideas come that make them seem to just fall into money. When asked how did you know? They say “I don’t know I just knew.” Listening to His spirit is how Jesus knew to tell Peter how to find gold in a fish’s mouth.

People who use common sense believe that no one is supposed to know anything about a subject without personal experience. Yet, many college professors who teach students how to be a Master at Business never ran a business. Some of the world’s leading child psychologists never had children. Some of the best matchmakers have not yet found their match. The two men who wrote most of the instructions about marriage in the Bible were not married: Jesus and the Apostle Paul. Those who listen to the spirit can know all things. 1 John 2:27 says the Holy Spirit will lead and guide you into ALL (not some) truth. Ask and you shall receive, seek and you will find, knock and it shall be opened up to you.

The most successful professionals defy common sense. Only 4 of the 12 modern-era coaches in the National Football League (NFL) Hall of Fame ever played in the NFL. Out of the 70 Coaches in the Basketball Hall of Fame only 19 ever played professional basketball. Out of the National Basketball Association’s (NBA) top 10 most winning coaches of all time 7 never played in the NBA. People who use common sense expect the best coaches to come from among the best players. Following that logic Michael Jordan should have been one of the best coaches of all time however his performance with the Washington Wizards proved otherwise.

Your spirit is the energizing force that gives your body life. It is therefore the appropriate guide for your life. Your spirit is in constant contact with the Spirit of GOD. The spirit of GOD shares with your spirit wisdom on how to get wealth. Your spirit tries to share that wisdom with your brain but it is often blocked by the senses. Your brain then does not receive the message to cause your body to act on the wisdom provided for you to succeed, achieve notoriety and make your fortune. Following common sense is self defeating because it leads people away from fulfilling their dreams.

Should a Woman Ask a Man for a Date?

Jacque Reid, as a reporter for the Tom Joyner Morning Show, interviewed a “matchmaker” who issued a challenge to all single ladies to ask out 10 men by Jan. 1. He said it will increase a woman’s changes of dating and getting into a relationship. He added that 50 percent of the men that a woman asks out will say yes.

I am sure this “matchmaker” can list some long term relationships that resulted from this practice but I can assure you that those relationships will be the exception and not the rule.

The average man already knows the type of woman he is looking for. Ladies, if a man does not summon the courage to walk across the room and ask you for a date, trust me, you are NOT what he was looking for! He is not going to risk the pain of rejection if he does not see you as a prize worth the risk.

Now, if you go over and ask him out, will he go out on dates and have sex with you? Yes! However, he will only do that until the one or the type of woman he is actually looking for comes along. You will get yourself caught up in the "something better game". That is where a man will sleep with you until something better comes along. He will take advantage of the fact that you are trying to be his wife and keep you as a starter in his game until you reach the “play-offs”. That is where the man tries you play you off so that he can be with someone else.

Ladies, if a man is having sex with you and he is not talking about marriage constantly or making plans to get married, he is only interested in having sex. That is it! The truth is MOST men are only interested in marrying a woman that is hard to get.

Here is another truth. Since a man already knows what he is looking for, he will know within a 3-5 month period whether or not you are the one he wants to marry. Therefore, he knows very early what category or file that he will place you in his life: family, friend or freak.

If the man has not begun talking about marriage within 3-5 months, you are NOT in the family file. If you are having sex with him, you are not in the friend file. That means you are in the freak file. The farthest you will go in this relationship is from sex dish to discarded; from sex to angry baby daddy. That's it!

A woman who pursues men, in a man’s mind, is either easy or desperate. The average man does not get involved with either of those types thinking of her as a keeper (keep-her). A man will date and have sex with her but marriage is more than likely out of the question.

Any guy who tries to convince any woman otherwise is telling lies. On the other hand, he may be sincere but he is sincerely wrong. One thing is certain though, the type of guy who would try to convince a woman that throwing herself at a man is wise is not a man but rather a man-sized boy. A man-sized boy will take an aggressive woman for a toss in the hay but then he will toss her away.

Of course, there are exceptions to the rule. However, if you operate in my advice as a general rule, you are less likely to be hurt trying to get love from a big boy who is only interested in sex.

Why are Men not in a Hurry to get married?

While there are many more, the following are the 4 MAIN reasons why men are not in a hurry to get married: 1) they already receive all the benefits of marriage; 2) fear of the unknown and a lack of knowledge; 3) they are playing the “something better” game; and 4) women are not demanding a commitment.

First, men are not in a hurry to get married because they already receive the benefits of marriage. Too many women perform the duties of a wife for men they are not married to. Men receive sex along with cooking, cleaning, laundry and other services without having to make a marriage commitment.

Second, when it comes to marriage, men have a fear of the unknown and high anxiety due to a lack of knowledge. In today’s society wherein there is an overwhelming level of broken families and an underwhelming lack of father figures for boys as they grow into men, men are fearful over whether or not they will have a marriage that works. They also know, whether or not they will admit it and despite how well their mother’s claim they prepared them, that they don’t really have the knowledge a man needs to build and maintain a successful family.

Third, SOME men are dating a woman whom they refuse to marry in opposition to discussions initiated by the woman because she is not the woman he wants to marry. Although he likes the sex and enjoys the wifely benefits, he is playing the “something better” game. That is, he will remain with her until the type of woman wants comes along or the specific woman that he really wants is ready to be with him.

Fourth, men do not have to rush into marriage because women today do not demand a commitment. There are a plethora of reasons why women are reluctant to demand a commitment which I will address in a separate article. However, some don’t want the man to feel pressured, some want to be sure that they are truly loved by ensuring the marriage proposal is completely his idea and some women are themselves fearful of the unknown and have anxiety due to a lack of knowledge. Since many women do not appear ready to get married, men are not likely to propose a wedding.

Women who really want to marry must set a deadline for action. If they have already been together for a year or more, the woman should set a date certain for the man to propose. By that date the man must have made the proposal and planned a short wedding date. Otherwise, the woman must take her losses and move on. Life is short. Any time we spend with someone is time from our lives that once past we will never get back. Therefore, we should not waste our life with someone that does not really love us or place a high value on our life.

Dr Will is the author of “Relationships 911: Surviving Love’s Emergencies” http://www.drwill911.com

AVOIDING CHAOS IN RELATIONSHIPS

The second law of Thermodynamics is entropy: the tendency of all things to descend into chaos. Relationships left unattended or not given the proper attention tend to experience entropy or descend into chaos.

If an apple is left on a counter and not used the way it was designed to be used, it will rot. Rotting is a form of entropy. When an apple is allowed to sit on a counter and rot, not only will the apple be damaged, it will also damage the area of the counter where it was sitting. The rotted apple must be cleaned up and the damaged counter will have to be repaired.

If a man leaves his wife unattended, does not give her proper attention or properly utilize her mind, gifts, talents and abilities their marriage will experience entropy. If a woman does not give her husband proper attention, their relationship will descend into disorder or chaos. Not only will this create mental and/or emotional damage but some other man or woman will have to clean up the mess that was made.

Unfortunately, the person who takes on the responsibility of cleaning up another man or woman’s mess will be subject to the law of excruciation. This law requires that whenever a thing creates damage or an imbalance in the earth, that thing or a like thing must experience pain or suffer the consequences of repairing the damage or restoring balance. The law of excruciation requires one person to experience pain or suffer consequences due to the actions of another.

The law of excruciation is the reason Jesus had to suffer the painful death of crucifixion. If Jesus had to die for our sins, why couldn’t He just die peacefully in His sleep? Why did He suffer so painfully? The reason Jesus had to experience that pain was to suffer the consequences for the mess that Adam made. Women experience painful menstruation even today because they are still suffering the consequences of the mess that Eve made.

Thus, the man or woman who opts to enter into a relationship with someone who just left a messy relationship will often have to suffer pain as a result of what another person either did or did not do. If he or she starts to get involved but it becomes too painful to finish, that relationship will end in chaos.

Relationships can also experience chaos when a spouse or partner is not used the way they were designed by GOD to be utilized. Each person was given life to complete a specific mission or fulfill a unique purpose. We each were given inherent knowledge, gifts, talents and/or abilities to assist us in completing that mission or fulfilling that purpose. Our life, gifts, etc were given to assist our spouse in fulfilling their purpose as well.

Before we enter into a long term or marital relationship we must already be aware of our own mission or purpose and have already identified our associated knowledge, gift, talent or ability. We must know if the mission or purpose the person we intend to become involved with will complement ours. If two people have divergent missions, they will embark upon different courses and eventually go in separate directions. The word divorce is comprised of the words “divided course”. A couple on a divided course will naturally split apart. Relationships enter chaos when couples are no longer “going together”.

Finally, avoiding chaos in relationships requires us to have knowledge about the GOD ordained purpose of men or women as a gender. Men were designed by GOD to lead whereas women were designed by GOD to help, to be a help meet or to help men meet their obligations to GOD. Most women have an inherent desire to help men which, for example, is why so many allow men who don’t work to live with them. Men have to understand that it is in a woman’s nature to want to help. Brothers, you must let your wife or woman help by properly utilizing her mind, gifts, talents and abilities. If you don’t, the relationship will enter chaos. Women must understand that men have an inherent desire to lead. Ladies, while you may be able to do everything better than your man, you must allow him to lead. If not, the relationship will descend into chaos. When a man can’t lead you he won’t love you.

The Bible says “My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge.” Relationships are destroyed for the same reason. Those who want to keep their relationships out of chaos must get the knowledge they need to keep them together in proper order.

Dr Will is the author of "Relationships 911: Surviving Love's Emergencies" http://www.drwill911.com/

NICE GUYS FINISH 2ND BUT END UP BEING 1ST

The NY Times* reported that field biologists studying baboons have found there can be a big downside to being No. 1, an alpha male or the primate equivalent to the bad boy.

Laurence R. Gesquiere, a research associate at Princeton, and colleagues report in the journal Science that in five troops of wild baboons in Kenya studied over nine years, alpha males showed very high stress levels. The stress was the result of the demands of fighting off challengers and guarding access to fertile females.

Beta males, the nice guys, fought less and had considerably less mate guarding to do, had much lower stress levels. They had fewer mating opportunities than the alphas (or bad boys), but they did get some mating in. After all, when the alpha male gets in another baboon bar fight, who’s going to get to take the girl home?

The alpha male or bad boy experiences higher levels of stress than the beta or nice guy male and there’s a cost because of the effects stress hormones have on one’s health. Researchers collected fecal samples to measure levels of glucocorticoids or stress hormones which showed that alpha males experienced higher levels of stress constantly.

Stress hormones are good in the short term because they work to energize the individual in threatening situations. In the long term, stress hormones cause you to fall apart physically and make one subject to diseases. Thus, alpha or bad boy baboons do not stay at the top very long.

The same is true for men. Since the bad boys are constantly dealing with some sort of conflict they are consistently carrying high levels of stress hormones. If the conflicts they have with other men doesn’t get them killed, they will get locked up or simply code out. That will make more women available for the beta or nice guy to choose from. While he might naturally finish second to the bad boy the beta will eventually end up first.

The best place for a beta to find a fine woman is while she is standing in line outside of the county jail waiting to visit her bad boy. After she finds out that her tough guy has turned into a prison hair braider, she will be ready to choose a beta boy over the bad boy.

Dr Will is the author of Relationships 911: Surviving Love's Emergencies http://www.drwill911.com/

*James Gorman, “Baboon Study Shows Benefits for Nice Guys, Who Finish 2^nd”, http://www.nytimes.com/2011/07/15/science/15baboon.html (July 14, 2011)

Is Same-Sex Marriage a Hazard to Women’s Health?

On June 24, 2011 New York Governor Andrew Cuomo signed a bill that allows same-sex marriage. Since every decision carries unintended consequences what impact will this bill have on the health of New York State’s female population?

If government reports that AIDS is spreading rapidly among straight women (due to the down low theory) and that AIDS is increasingly killing more and more women annually, how could they then legally support gay marriage if it could mean more women might die? I believe what the government reports about AIDS and it being spread by gay sexual activity is a lie. It is time that we asked the right questions and found out the truth.

According to the Kaiser Family Foundation State Health Facts, 2010, New York currently has the highest number of blacks living with AIDS than any other state and more people living with AIDS than 36 other states combined.

The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDCP) report, HIV among African Americans (http://www.cdc.gov/hiv/topics/aa/),

reveals HIV is the ninth leading cause of death for blacks in America and the third leading cause of death for both black men and women aged 35–44. The rate of new HIV infection for black women is nearly 15 times higher than white women and nearly 4 times that of Hispanic women. Black men are HIV infected at a rate 6 times greater than white men, nearly 3 times that of Hispanic men and twice that of black women.

Most black women whom I interviewed strongly believe that HIV infection among black women is directly attributable to “the down low” or same-sex activity between black men. If that is true, and governmental extension of a “right” to engage in gay sex makes it more prevalent, what will be the long term impact of same-sex marriage on the health of black women?

The World Health Organization asserts that HIV is the result of gay sex activity, that HIV leads to AIDS and AIDS leads to death. It agrees with the CDCP that black women are HIV infected at greater rates than other races. If those assertions are true, is same-sex marriage a threat to the lives of New York’s black female population? If same-sex marriage is indeed a threat to the lives of black women, has Governor Cuomo unwittingly granted a right to one group that could lead to the death of others?

I believe that what the World Health Organization, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, et al are spreading information that they know is neither true nor can be proven. There are Nobel Prize winning doctors, biologists, chemists and even mathematicians who have been saying for decades that AIDS is NOT what we are being told it is. For a more in depth report on this topic entitled AIDS: Pandemic or Biological Assault please follow the link below.

http://www/drwill911.com/aids.html